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you really have to stop treating your friends like therapists. they are not your therapists. you cannot bind them with the entirety of your deep set trauma and only seek them out for the alleviation of your pain (regardless of how severe your pain is!) when you give minimal return. a friendship is dual-sided, mutually beneficial. a friendship is when you listen and you reflect because you care about them. a friendship can heal you, but if all you do is neglect the needs of the other, than you are not acting as a friend. if all you do is take and expect them to take, you are not acting as a friend. really, you are acting as someone who believes that they are completely entitled to the emotional labor of someone else for free. if you want to have good friends who are there for you, be a good friend first. if you need someone to talk to, find a therapist. a therapist and a friend are not interchangeable.
(Source: pak, via mallaproper)
